Saturday, February 9, 2008

Why I don't want anything for Valentine's!

I mean it! It’s true. I don’t want, need or expect ANYTHING for Valentine’s. And, frankly, that’s how it’s been for years. My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years now, and we even had four Valentine’s days before that. In the beginning we exchanged cards and little gifts. I think I got perfume one year. And I’ve had a few nice dinners. But over the years that tradition…dwindled. We might still exchange cards, and I might get a rose, but I neither need or expect either. Why, you might ask? Have I just been so neglected over the years that I’ve given up? My husband is such an insensitive heel that there is simply no point in even reminding him about Valentine’s? No. Not by a long shot.

In fact it’s just the opposite. In fact, if I’m honest, I’m hopelessly spoiled. Here’s just a little sampling of what I’m treated to on a regular basis:

Shopping. My hubby actually ENJOYS taking me shopping. He delights in going to lingerie shops or looking for sexy clothes for me, and admiring me while I try them on. He also picks items out while I’m holed up in the change room…and he’s GOOD at it!

Nightlife. I get treated to dinner and club-dancing on a regular basis. We go out to eat, drink wine, and dance into the wee hours at least once a month if not more. And my husband actually enjoys dancing with me. And, over the years, he’s even gotten good at it! Lol

Massages. My husband has magic hands. I do not exaggerate when I say that I would have spent a mint on massage therapists if not for him. But he doesn’t just massage me when I have strained muscles or aches and pains. Massages, complete with scented oils and candles, are a regular treat that he never denies me when asked. And he has been known to massage me, from head to toe, through an entire movie.

Bathing. On the evenings that I decide I need to soak in a hot tub, he has been known to draw the bath for me, set up the candles and fix me a martini to help me soothe out the knots.

Every day, of every week, of every month, of every year, I am reminded over and over again, how much he loves me and how beautiful he thinks I am. I don’t need any gifts, or one special day out of the year to remind me of that. I’m damn lucky, and I know it.

So, that’s MY Valentine’s experience, and frankly, a bit of a Valentine’s gift for my hubby. But now….Having said all that….what is YOUR typical Valentine’s day like? What will you and your special significant other do this week to celebrate, if anything? Or….do you have a special memory of a particularly special Valentine’s that you’d like to share?


Lynn LaFleur said...

You're very lucky to have such a considerate husband, Nikki. Wouldn't it be wonderful if all women could find a man so nice?


Titania Ladley said...

>>>Shopping. My hubby actually ENJOYS taking me shopping.<<<

Sounds like you're both enjoying each other---how romantic! My DH squirms and gets impatient when he's shopping with me. But I can't really blame him...I despise shopping. It's just not my thing, so I can't very well expect him to do it if I don't like it either. LOL

But as far as expecting gifts on Valentine's Day, birthdays, holidays, whatever, I usually request no money be spent on me. Don't know why that is, but I've always been that way. Hmm...


Diana said...

I so totally agree, Nikki! Valentine's Day is about the love, not about the presents. Just like all the other holidays.

And just like all the other holidays, merchants have seen/created an atmosphere of gimme, gimme, gimme. I'm SO glad to hear not everyone buys into that!